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Parent Education Night: Spiritual Abuse in the Muslim Community

December 13 @ 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Asalamu’alaikum Beloved Community Members,

In light of troubling recent events of spiritual abuse across the country, MCC joins our national discussion on this challenging topic to ferret out spiritual predators in the Muslim community and protect our communities, particularly our children.

Shaykh Rami Nsour and Sidi Shaan Mukhtar, passionate local congregation members helping our community understand this type of abuse, will lead this conversation.

Parents: Please join us for practical and spiritual tools to talk about this type of abuse with your children.

The national discourse in the Muslim community prompts this discussion. Alhamdulliah, no spiritual abuse incident has happened at MCC. 

The MCC Board will also update you on additional precautionary security measures we are implementing to ensure our community center remains a safe space for everyone, especially children.

This vital education night is from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. on Friday, Dec.  13. Please mark your calendars. You can join us in person or watch live virtually.

Spiritual abuse is quite common in our communities and is often missed because of our inability to see it and correct it. It’s also missed because of the shame associated with abuse. It ends with awareness and action.

What is Spiritual Abuse?

This is when individuals misuse their authority within religious settings to manipulate, control, or harm others. This leaves deep and lasting impacts on the victim by shaking the foundation of their faith. Some victims feel disconnected from the beliefs meant to bring peace and healing.

Asalamu’alaikum Beloved Community Members,

In light of recent events of spiritual abuse in the Muslim community nationally, MCC is organizing a town hall meeting to discuss additional measures we are taking to ensure our community center remains a safe space for everyone, especially children.Join us on Friday, Dec.  13, from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m. to discuss the additional steps we are implementing and address questions and concerns. More details to come!

We welcome you to make suggestions and volunteer to ensure the safety of children. Together, we can foster a compassionate, accountable space for all.

In addition to the town hall, here are the steps that MCC is taking to ensure that our center provides a safe environment for every member of our community:
  • Any new hire is required to complete a background and reference check (our Sunday School volunteers also currently get background checked);
  • Addressing these topics candidly in Jumu’ah Khutbahs (Friday sermons);
  • As mandatory reporters, requiring staff and volunteers to take training for misconduct prevention and identification;
  • In collaboration with our mental health partner Maristan, MCC will hold healing circles;
  • No counseling of the opposite gender will take place in a closed space at MCC or without a Mahram present;
  • Meetings between opposite genders must not occur in closed spaces but in public, open spaces, such as rooms with open doors and visible windows. No Imam, Shaykh, or staff member is exempt from this policy. We require all children under 18 to be supervised at all times;
  • Increased security and video surveillance around the facility;
  • MCC vets the background of new speakers, presenters, and Khateebs;
  • We will host an educational family night for parents, Sunday school teachers, and staff on safety measures and recognizing misconduct.

Please do not leave children unattended at the facility. Please pick up your child on time after their class, halaqa, or activity is over, and do not drop them off early.

If you see any misconduct, please don’t hesitate to reach us at
mcc-listens@mcceastbay.org

Resources For Healing, Support & Recovery
Spiritual Abuse Resources

Even though MCC aims to implement policies to safeguard those attending classes and programs at the facility, we can only do this with your help.

Please help us ensure that our children remain safe by reporting any concerns about misconduct, volunteering, and talking to your children at home about proper personal boundaries.

From our friends at Maristan:

Assalamu Alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, 

In light of recent events, we at Maristan feel it is crucial to address the importance of creating safe, respectful spaces for spiritual and personal growth. Spiritual abusewhen individuals misuse their position of authority within religious settings to manipulate, control, or harm othershas deep and lasting impacts. This form of abuse not only damages individuals but can also shake the foundation of their faith, leading some to feel disconnected from the very beliefs meant to bring peace and healing.

We believe that accountability is essential in addressing these harms. Those who inflict such abuse must be held responsible, not only to support victims but also to protect the integrity of our communities. It’s important to remember that no single person defines our faith. Faith is rooted in compassion, justice, and kindness, and these values should guide how we respond to spiritual abuse and the structures we build to prevent it.

Spiritual abuse can leave lasting psychological impacts, including:

  • Moral ConfusionThe disorienting confusion arises when witnessing a religious figure partaking in harmful behaviors.
  • Trauma BondsA powerful emotional bond that victims may develop with their abuser, complicating their ability to separate from the abuse.
  • Nonresistance to Prolonged Abuse: A tendency to endure prolonged harm due to the authority figure’s status.
  • Failure to Report Abuse: Victims often face feelings of fear, guilt, or isolation, making it difficult to seek help.

If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of spiritual abuse, please know that you are not alone. There are resources, safe spaces, and support systems to help you heal, reclaim your well-being, and find safety. At Maristan, we are committed to fostering environments where trust and compassion form the foundation and every individual can feel secure in their faith journey and personal well-being.

Resources for Healing and Support:

If you have any questions or need additional support, please don’t hesitate to contact us at Maristan. Let’s work together to foster compassionate, accountable spaces for all.

MCC East Bay

5724 W Las Positas Blvd #300
Pleasanton, CA 94588 United States